Life Happens
Sometimes within our lives, despite our best intentions and conscious action, life simply happens to us. One important factor that we must remember in the process of gaining authenticity within our lives is that there is no such thing, as doing your own thing. We must remain aware that all our interactions within the entanglements in our lives will result in splintered action amongst those in our sphere. As we move throughout the world, making connections and acting authentically, our actions will affect others whether we intend for them to do so, or not. Therefore when something unexpected happens to us within our lives, we must recognize that more than likely it was a byproduct of those entanglements. These tend to be some of the most difficult and traumatic events that may occur within our lives as we rarely see them coming. They often come as a result of others’ awarenesses and we are rarely privy to the insight that resulted in the action that affects us.
Many significant events in your life will just fucking happen to you, and you will just sit there, not knowing how to act or react within your life. We are often initially shattered by some of these events within our lives, and simply don’t know how to interpret their effect on our lives. This is why there is really no doing your own thing within this life: We are all affected by the externalities of the world, whether we like it or not. The second that we subject ourselves to the world ouutside our own awareness, we become subject to the awareness and consciouness of others. The world may seem random, but in my opinion, there is actually very little randomness to the world. The world is simply filled with humans, doing their best to interpret the world according to their own situations within life. The random nature of the world is simply our perception of all others attempting to live their lives within their own personal spectrum. Inevitably our placement within the world will square us directly within the course of the individuals surrounding us in our lives. It may not even be intentional, as we are simply going about our lives in the same fashion, but the geography within our lives places us directly in the crosshairs of another’s life.
In a perfect world, perhaps, we would be able to respond within each moment with the greatest possible intention and awareness of the situation. The reality is that just isn’t possible. We are humans, and are prone to reaction within these difficult situations. How many of us have been in a car accident, and immediately thought “What the hell? What was that idiot doing?” This is perhaps the perfect example of the delicate interplay of others within our lives. Simply by being physically located in the same area as the other driver, we have subjected ourselves to their own externalities. This metaphor can be transcribed to our interpersonal relationships as well: By aligning ourselves with others, both spiritually and geographically, we subject ourselves to their awarenesses and externalities. By becoming parts of others lives, we inextricably link ourselves with the subsequent actions and reactions of those who we include within our circle.
So, then, it is perhaps our duty within this life to respond graciously and with fluidity when life hands us our greatest challenges. That is to say that sometimes the most powerful response within any given situation, is no response at all. By giving yourself the opportunity to process these important and challenging events within your life, you give yourself the ability to begin to play chess with your life, making conscious intentional moves to extricate the greatest benefit from each situation within your life. Even though we may not be at fault for the car accidents within our lives (both literally and metaphorically) we must understand that either consciously or subconsciously we have placeed ourselves in the situation that resulted in the challenge. We must accept some modicum of responsibility when engaging with the hurdles that we encounter with our lives. Personal responsibility is tangential to self awareness and accountability within our lives, and we must accept that we are here now under our own volition.
